After being told I had Premature Ovarian Failure (POF) & two failed IVFs with my eggs, my husband and I turned to egg donation to help us create our family. After 3 years of TTC we are finally parents! Now as a mother of a child via egg donation, I share my experiences and feelings about egg donation and infertility.
Currently we are TTC #2, if it is meant to be. We have decided to give my body another chance. I am helping myself out by changing my diet (trying to be a good vegan). We might as well give it a shot right? We also have a frozen embryo ‘totsicle’ that we plan to transfer in the summer of 2012 or 2013.
I also like to write about parenting and whatever else moves me.
Hi there! I just saw your blog on the ICLW list for August and wanted to introduce myself. I have “testicles” that I adopted as embryos. Sadly, we lost the twins I was carrying February. Embryo adoption/donation could be an alternative for you that can be much cheaper than doing another egg donor cycle or traditional adoption. I wasn’t sure if you’ve ever considered it, but, there is a site called Miracles Waiting that has made many dreams of motherhood come true. Just a thought. We all have unique roads to motherhood in this community, so I wanted to throw that out there. We’re gearing up for our next transfer that should be on 8/31. I am equally excited and terrified!
It is nice to meet you Lacie and I will have to check out your blog. LOL about the Testicles…I think it is funny that your ipad auto corrected totsicle to testicles. We are still a long way out from our FET. I figure give my body one last hail Mary.
Okay…I have NOT, for the record, adopted frozen TESTICLES! Stupid autocorrect! The word was “totsicles!” I thought your term was cute, so I naively tried to type it on my iPad.
Hi there,
I found your blog by accident and have to stop myself from reading anymore tonight (it’s 10pm here, early start at work in the morning) but I wanted to say hi before I logged off.
After 4 IUI cycles over a 12 month period my partner gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. While our journey to motherhood was challenging, I am acutely aware that we have had it easy compared to so many others. Firstly, we are lucky that we were only “socially infertile” (*ahem*..queer..) and didn’t have any medical hurdles to hold us back. We were also lucky to have a sperm donor who has kids from donated embryos so he truly just wanted to help someone get pregnant with no stings attached.
After our son was born my partner and I decided it was time to pay it forward so on Friday I’ll be going under and donating eggs to a lovely couple who desperately want a sibling for their beautiful daughter (also from egg donation). It’s been a crazy 12weeks preparing my body (mind and soul) for this – but I feel so honored to help someone else the way my partner and I were helped.
The recipient and I haven’t spoken much about what it’s like for her knowing that both her kids are from donated eggs. And while it’s obviously not an issue at all, I’m just curious to know how she deals with it because her daughter looks nothing like her and people are quick to point that out to her. Recently someone made the comment that my son isn’t really my son because he’s not biologically mine and that went through my heart like a hot poker – so I can imagine how it feels for a recipient of donated eggs and embryos. I don’t know what the laws are like where you are, but thankfully here both my partner and I are listed as parent 1 and parent 2 on the birth certificate.
Anyway, I’m crazy tired and rambling (..and under the influence of hormones..) so I’m going to leave it there.
I look forward to reading the rest of your journal…
Cheers
Dannii
Hi,
As someone about to embark on the DE journey (I have one biological 2-year old daughter and have had 4 miscarriages), I have been reading your blog. You and others have mentioned certain diets to improve your fertility – what does that consist of? I am wondering if it will help with a successful pregnancy with donor eggs. I want to be in the best possible physical shape at the the time of the procedure. Thanks for sharing your story!
Lauren
Lauren,
I have come across several different people who changed their diet to help their fertility. What I did for my DE cycle was acupuncture once a week. I also followed the The Traditional Chinese Medicine food recommendations. I don’t remember what they are now.
Going vegan now has more to do with health issues for my DH. I figure give it a shot and see if it helps my fertility. What I do remember about TCM food recommendations is no wheat, no dairy, no sugar, and warm foods (cook your veggies). Feel free to email me at donordiva (at) gmail (dot) com
Thank you so much…I am sure I will email you with more questions as we get further in the process!