Being a mom a second time has been better than expected. I had many concerns, since the first few months of Ant’s life were stressful. Ant had weight checks, breastfeeding issues, and many other issues. Plus adding in being a first time mom and recovering from a c-sec.
The first 2 weeks have been a dream with V. She will be 2 weeks officially on Saturday and time is already flying by quickly. V is a great nurser! She is exclusively breastfed with no supplementing. I was a little worried but after her Drs appointment yesterday, I think I can finally relax. V is back up to her birth weight of 7lbs 15oz in less then two weeks. Also he fractured collar bone is almost healed and it doesn’t seem to bother her.
Ant is adjusting to being a big brother. Most mornings he asks to hold baby V. Also the three of us love to cuddle together. I know he is going to be a great big brother but I need to learn to balance being a wife and a mom of 2 kids. I am a little worried how I am going to do once I have to go back to work. Right now I am just going to enjoy my maternity leave with my two kids and husband.
I want to share my birth story and I will hopefully finish it this week.
Baby V followed in her brother’s foot steps in surprising me when she was going to come. On Friday I went for my normal NST and didn’t pass, so we had to do an ultrasound. They discovered my fluid was very low and they were sending me to the hospital for a c-sec. The OBs and I never discussed VBAC induction so I was upset that I would have not choice and have to do a repeat c-sec.
Luckily, the OB that was on call was on board with induction instead of a c-sec. I labored for about 22 hours before baby V arrived via VBAC with no pain meds. Baby V and I have both graduated from glucose checks and she is nursing like a champ. After we are out of the hospital, I will share our birth story.
Baby V was my healing birth and I am so happy I decided to VBAC.
Last pregnancy pictureAnt and baby VBaby V
My sweet Ant is 5 years old now. The week after his birthday several of my old blog posts popped up into my timehop and it was fun and emotional to read my feeling during labor and the first week of his life.
I remember that first week being one of the hardest but best weeks of my life. I was finally a mother but Ant was in the NICU. Now he is a healthy 5 year old.
In the next couple weeks his life will completely change. He has been the center of our world and now he will be sharing us with his baby sister.
Also this fall he will be starting school It is very exciting but it is hard to believe he is school age already. Time has passed us by so quickly in the last 5 years.
For those who wonder how much he knows about his story, he knows the kid version. Mommy and Daddy needed help to have a baby and a nice lady donated an egg. The it was mixed together with Daddy and put in Mommy’s belly. We got to talk more about this when we were getting ready for our FET. I don’t ever want him to be ashamed of his conception or wonder about it. I want to be open and honest with him.
I also look forward to taking this journey again with baby V. I have enjoyed being a mom and truly looking forward to being a mom of two children. We are now in the final count down. She could join us any day now.
Today was a great day! This morning I saw MFM. The Drs were happy with my fluid level, passed my NST with flying colors, and my BP was within normal range! I was very pleased with all of this information.
Saw my OB this afternoon also and met the OB I want to deliver baby V. She was very supportive of our natural birth plan and hypno birthing. Plus she checked my cervix and I am 1 1/2 cm dialated and 80% effaced. She predicts me having this baby in the next 2-3 weeks which is perfect since they will want her out around 39 weeks. Tomorrow I will be 36 weeks. Best day of appointments in along time.
Today I had the opportunity to get maternity photos taken. It was an awesome experience even though it was cold outside and posing in the snow. I will be able to treasure this last pregnancy forever.
In the last week I have met my new OB practice and they are mostly supportive, which is great. GD is under control with the help of insulin and NSTs are going great. On Friday when they did my Bio Physical Profile (BPP), which is an u/s, apparently the amniotic fluid was on the low side of normal. The dr and the u/s tech asked me if my water had broken. Ummm…if it had I would have told you. Well since baby V looked great otherwise they let me go. I go back tomorrow and they will re-check the amniotic fluid. I don’t know what they will do if it is still on the low side but I am not ready to have this baby. She still needs time to bake.
***Warning this Post is all about pregnancy and has a picture of baby.***
This week I started twice a week NSTs and weekly bio physical for baby V. The bonus of all this extra attention is we got this cute little picture of her face. So far this week has been better then last week. I have an appointment with a new OB and I am hopeful that they will let us give VBAC a shot. The down/up side is I will be delivering at a different hospital then expect. The upside of this is they have birthing tubes in the rooms. I LOVE the water and think this will be helpful for a successfully VBAC.
Insulin is going great and nightly shots aren’t a big deal. My glucose numbers have been in control and my BP is normal. The goal over the next 5-7 weeks is to keep things this way to give baby V the best chance of not being hypoglycemic like her brother at birth.
Thank you to all who have reached out to me in the last couple weeks. It is nice to hear from potential DE moms.
This post will mainly be about what is going on in my pregnancy. The last week or so has been rough.
Baby V and I are doing great. She is healthy and growing just right. At 30 weeks and 6 days my nurse and I decided I needed medication for my GD (Gestational Diabetes). Over the last couple week my night-time fasting numbers have been gradually rising. The frustrating thing about GD fasting number is there really is no way to control the number. For meals I can eat less carbs and make better carb choices but for fasting it is almost all hormones.
My nurse initially started me on Glyburide. I took Glyburide when I was pregnant with Ant to help my fasting numbers. This time around through I did a little research on Glyburide and found that it has an increased risk of hypoglycemia in baby at birth. Ant was hypoglycemic at birth and he spend almost a week in NICU. This was something I did not want to repeat with baby V. I emailed my nurse and told her my concerns and asked for other options. Well the only other option is insulin. For someone who has done 2 IVFs and 2 DE IVFs needles are no big deal.
While needles are no big deal to me but being on insulin meant I cannot stay with the midwife practice. So this week I had to say goodbye to the practice I love and start searching for a new one. The hard part about this search is #1 I want to try to VBAC (vaginal birth after c-sec). #2 I have GD and #3 I am on insulin. The first practice I contacted said that I am to high risk and recommended a high risk OB over 45mins away from my house and a hospital I knew nothing about. It is hard hearing no, especially at 32 weeks when I already feel like a ticking time bomb.
Next week I have to contact two more options and hope one of them will take me on. Otherwise it looks like I may have to drive farther. Also next week starts twice a week NST (none stress test). My boss is going to be so frustrated with me by the end but my number 1 concern is baby V. I want her to be healthy and that is why I made the tough choice to use insulin instead of Glyburide.
What I have learned from this past week is that we need to ask our Drs questions. Sometimes we follow what they tell us blindly. From now on I am going to be asking about the Benefits, Risks, and Alternatives. I can no longer follow their advice blindly.
Becoming a parent for the second time is a completely different experience then the first time. I have a better idea of what to expect both in pregnancy and birth. Last time with about 6-8 weeks left in my pregnancy they found sugar in my urine. We learned soon after that that I had Gestational Diabetes (GD) and the end of my pregnancy with Ant was a roller coaster. Ant’s birth wasn’t ideal either with an induction, BP issues, and a week stay in the NICU. As a second time parent I want to avoid these things.
I wasn’t sure how much I could control some of these factors. The GD was obviously something I couldn’t change but we caught it early and I am currently managing my sugars with diet and exercise. The goal is to keep my sugars in check through my whole pregnancy and avoid having baby girl in the NICU also.
The biggest regret I have about Ant’s birth was missing the first 24hrs of his life due to hime being in the NICU and me recovering from a c-sec. I am being very proactive this pregnancy and have hired a doula to help me VBAC(Vaginal Birth After C-sec), finding a supportive provider, and hypnobirthing classing. If I end up needing a c-sec again I am ok with this but I would prefer a natural birth. I want to breastfeed my daughter minutes after giving birth. I want her to be with us in the hospital room.
All I can do is prepare and hope for the best. The rest is in God’s hands and my caregivers.
Five years ago when we were pregnant with Ant, I was concerned about how he was not genetically related to me. This time around, it is the last thing on my mind. What I have learned in the last five years is that genetics don’t matter, the love of a family matters. We have told Ant his story many times. Since transferring Frosty it has given us many opportunities to talk about Ant’s and Frosty’s story.
Someday I hope to tell our Egg Donor how grateful I am for her donation. She has helped us create our perfect family of four. I love our children and look forward to doing this all over again with our daughter Frosty. Maybe time for a new nickname too :)